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Tragic mum sent husband text saying ‘you win’ before taking her own life

A Doncaster mum-of-two tragically took her own life after a text argument with her husband on the night of her death.

Amanda Jayne Sedgwick, 49, was found dead on a bed in her home in Askern on May 19, 2020, after sending several texts to her husband in an argument.

She was described as a loved mum who enjoyed cooking, crochet and knitting.

In a statement her mother Pamela said: “I miss my daughter so much, it’s hard to put into words how much I miss her.”

An inquest into her death at Doncaster Coroners Court heard that the couple had suffered marital issues for a number of years, reports Yorkshire Live.

Ambulance crews were called at 10.40pm on May 19, 2020, after her husband found her upstairs on a bed unresponsive.

Yorkshire Ambulance Service found Amanda had been dead for a long time when they arrived at Manor Way, in Askern
Yorkshire Ambulance Service found Amanda had been dead for some time when they arrived at Manor Way, in Askern

When a Yorkshire Ambulance Service Crew arrived at 10.50pm they observed that she had been dead for some time and rigor mortis had already set in.

Giving evidence pathologist Dr Charles Wilson said that it was likely that she had been dead a “couple of hours” by the time paramedics arrived on the scene.

Her cause of death was given as drug toxicity from overdosing on prescribed medication.

Her husband was observed as being extremely intoxicated at the scene and was later arrested by police on suspicion of murder.

A text conversation between Amanda and her husband that night whilst they were in the house was discovered on their phones.

Her husband was later released under investigation and no charges where ever brought against him.

Evidence live in court from officer in charge DC Kate Norton heard that the couple had sent a number of text messages to each other on the night that she died.

Doncaster Coroner's Court
Doncaster Coroners Court heard the couple had sent a number of text messages to each other on the night that Amanda died

Asked what the nature of the messages where by coroner Louise Slater DC Norton responded: “The text messages where centred around the marriage not working.

“This had been a theme running for a long time throughout the marriage.”

The inquest heard that Amanda and her husband where sending texts to each other from separate rooms on the night of May 19.

At 7.59pm Amanda sent a text to say: “You’ve won.”

A few minutes later at 8.09pm her husband replied to say: “I would quite happily die right now, so no (sic) you have won.”

Amanda replied at 8.12pm to say: “Too late, I took it first. You won.”

She then added: “Love that they were your last words to me.”

He replied a short time later to say: “Whatever.”

And then: “Cherish them.”

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In her last message sent to her husband at 8.27pm she said: “I didn’t think it would happen. I never thought a man would get me this low.

“Well done you, you are so much better than me.”

Her body was found at 22.40pm that night when her husband made a 999 call.

In a pre-prepared statement, in an interview with South Yorkshire Police, read out at the inquest her husband denied being responsible for her death.

The inquest heard that there was no evidence that Amanda had suffered from mental health issues.

However, it was heard that she had complained of her husband drinking too much.

Coroner Louise Slater said: “It is clear that Amanda was a 49-year-old woman who was found suddenly and unexpectedly deceased on May 19 last year.

“She had been with her husband for a period of 23 years and she had two sons.

“The relationship had been challenging at times. At the time of Amanda’s death she had been furloughed due to Covid.

“It is also clear that there were a number of texts between Amanda and her husband during the evening of May 19.

“It was not a particularly pleasant exchange that evening. I am satisfied that Amanda carried out a deliberate act and she did so with the intention of taking her own life.

“Therefore I conclude that Amanda died as a result of suicide.”

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